The Foundation Is Freedom

Hey Family,

If you’re new here, welcome. This is a space where we explore life through the lens of basketball and vice versa. I’m Torin Dorn — a player development coach and pro hooper who walked away from coaching in the NBA to chase a childhood dream, honor my mom’s legacy, and share everything I’ve learned along the way with you.

This Week’s Reflection:

If you want to be great at anything, it takes a level of dedication and consistency that looks and feels different. Different from what you’ve done before. Different from what most people are doing. That’s because different results require different input. Period.

You can’t do what you’ve always done and expect your life to change. You are a reflection of your thoughts — and your thoughts are affirmations, whether you realize it or not. Every internal conversation is either moving you toward the life you want, or keeping you stuck where you’ve always been.

In the last edition, I shared how I left my job in the NBA to return to playing basketball overseas. What I didn’t tell you is this: the most powerful thing I’ve learned since making that jump isn’t about basketball. It’s about environment.

You are the environment you place yourself in.

Your mind and body are constantly reacting to the stimuli around you. If you want to be a high-performing athlete (or a high-performing anything), you’ve got to put yourself in an environment that demands high-level performance. That means changing how you eat. How you rest. How you pray, train, recover, think. That means discipline. Ritual. Intention.

You don’t need to take my word for it — just study the greats.

Take Steph Curry for example.

His legendary shooting routine isn’t just about reps — it’s about rhythm, mental clarity, flow. He’s trained to the point where his foundation allows him to be free.

“I don’t take any shots I haven’t practiced.” – Steph Curry

That line right there? That’s freedom rooted in fundamentals.
Because freedom without foundation is chaos. But once you master your base, your habits become second nature — and then you can create, adapt, and elevate.

Life and Basketball Parallel:

In life, your foundation might be faith. Or family. Or meditation. Whatever keeps you centered — that’s where your power comes from. It’s your anchor. When things get tough, that’s what holds you steady.

You might’ve seen it before — people who pray, thanking God not just for what He’s done, but for what’s coming. That’s faith. That’s affirmation. That’s alignment.

When you combine belief with consistent action, things start to shift. You attract new opportunities. You start walking in rooms you used to dream about. But it starts with foundation — and then the work builds on top of it.

This Week’s Intention:

Build your foundation.
Whether that’s creating a new routine, removing a bad habit, or leaning deeper into your spiritual practice — get grounded. You can’t build anything solid on shaky ground.

I’ll break down how I reverse engineer my week and schedule like I’m already worth a billion dollars — and how you can, too. Until then, stay locked in.

And if this hit home for you, forward it to someone who’s ready to level up

Until next week,
Keep working. Keep believing. Keep becoming.

With love,
Torin Dorn
@torindorn2

The Return — and Why It Mattered

Hey Family,

If you’re new here, welcome. I appreciate you being here.

Let me give you some quick context:
My name is Torin Dorn — I’m a player development coach and professional basketball player. I’ve spent my entire life chasing greatness. And along that journey, I’ve failed more times than I can count.

But every loss has taught me how to win.
And more importantly — how to reverse engineer the life I want to live.

I’ve been blessed to work with some of the greatest athletes in the world and share the floor with a few too. That journey has given me a very specific set of skills and perspectives — not just about the game, but about performance, systems, discipline, and what it truly looks like to live at a high level.

God gave me a gift: to communicate, to storytell, and to break down complex ideas in a way that hits. If I’m not using that gift, then I’m doing a disservice to Him… and to you.

So I’m writing this newsletter to walk with you — as a guide, as a brother, and as a learner too. My goal is to share what I know, learn what I don’t, and grow together.

Let’s get into it.

The Decision

Three months ago, I made one of the hardest decisions of my life:
I quit my job coaching in the NBA to return to playing basketball professionally.

It sounds wild, I know. But from a “will I regret this when I’m 60?” perspective, it was actually one of the easiest choices I’ve ever made.

But the real story behind that decision started two years ago — on April 18, when my mom passed away after a long battle with colon cancer.

That journey changed me forever.
It taught me what it truly means to fight. It showed me what matters. It reminded me that life is really just about love, time, and legacy.

The day my mom was diagnosed, I was supposed to sign a pro contract in Poland. I walked away from that deal without hesitation. Because no amount of money could replace an extra year with my mom. To some, that might look like putting my career on pause. But to me? That was life in its realest form.

If you can live like that — choosing people, purpose, and peace over the perception of success — you live with no regrets.

The Sign

Fast forward to this past December. I was at my younger brother Nick’s game — Elon vs. East Tennessee State — in a quiet gym on a rainy night. As we walked in, I whispered a prayer to God:

"Give me a sign. Should I go back to playing? Should I walk away from this new coaching life I’ve built and chase the dream again?"

The moment I sat down, I treated the game like it was mine. I visualized being out there. When the starters were announced, I imagined they were calling my name. When the national anthem played, I closed my eyes and prayed — just like I used to before every game.

Then… they played a song.

“I'm living in that 21st century, doing something mean to it...”
– Kanye West, Power

Sign #1.
That was the tipoff song at NC State.
It took me right back — to that zone, that war-ready mentality where I let go of everything and entered pure focus. I used to hum it before tip-off:

“Now this will be a beautiful death / Jumping out the window, Letting everything go…”

Before you think I’m a sociopath, that line was never about dying to me. It was about letting go of fear, doubt, and insecurity… so I could play free. So I could live free.

The Confirmation

Five minutes into the game, Nick’s teammate — a young PG I’d been watching — drove hard to the rim. A move I’ve seen a hundred times. But this time… his knee gave out.

He collapsed.
The arena went silent.
And I went numb.

I flashed back to my own injury three years earlier in the Czech Republic. Same situation. Same fall. Same uncertainty.

Fifteen minutes later, he came back out in street clothes and sat behind the bench — towel over his head, trying to process what just happened. I wanted to lean over the rail and tell him, “You’re gonna be okay. You’ll come back stronger.”

But I froze.
Because I realized… I never gave myself that chance.

I had never returned to the court after my own injury. And in that moment, trying to preach something I hadn’t lived yet felt fake. It felt like a fraud move. And I never want to be that guy.

So I sat in silence.
And that became Sign #2.

The Return

That night, I made peace with my decision.

Fast forward to today — April 15, 2025 — and I’ve been back in the Czech Republic since January 21. We just finished the regular season.

Returning to play has been the most challenging, healing, and fulfilling thing I’ve ever done. After game one, I felt whole. Like I’d completed the circle. But now? I’m hungry. Not just to play — but to use everything I learned as a coach to elevate my game… and help you do the same.

Whether you're a hooper chasing your dream, or someone who just wants to become the best version of themselves — I’m here to serve.
I’m here to share it all.

And I’m honored you’re here with me.

🧠 This Week’s Takeaway:

Don’t let fear disguise itself as wisdom.
If there’s something you need to do — do it now.
You’ll never regret choosing growth over comfort.

Until next week,
Keep working. Keep believing. Keep becoming.

With love,
Torin Dorn
@torindorn2

[022] What is perfect anyway?

perfection is a figment of your imagination.

To the person:

Life is a series of opportunities, each one presenting us with the chance to grow, learn, and evolve. One of the most profound lessons I've learned on this journey is the importance of self-forgiveness. The quicker you forgive yourself for not being perfect, the quicker you can move on to your next opportunity. It’s easy to get caught up in self-criticism and regret, but these emotions only serve to hold us back. Embracing our imperfections and understanding that they are part of the human experience is essential.

Every failure you face is simply preparing you for the next triumph. Think of each setback as a stepping stone, each mistake as a lesson. When we look at our lives from this perspective, failures transform from insurmountable obstacles into invaluable teachers. They equip us with the knowledge, resilience, and insight we need to succeed in our future endeavors.

Before every great business was a few failed ones. This is a universal truth of most entrepreneurial journeys. The most successful entrepreneurs have a history of failures that helped shape their ultimate success. Each failed venture provided critical insights and experiences that were necessary for their later achievements. It’s the same in every aspect of life – from careers to personal relationships.

Before every great relationship was a few breakups. Heartbreaks and disappointments in relationships are painful, but they also pave the way for deeper understanding and stronger connections in the future. They teach us about ourselves, our needs, and our boundaries. They prepare us to appreciate and nurture a healthy and fulfilling relationship when it finally comes along.

In essence, the path to becoming a better person is not a straight line. It’s a journey filled with ups and downs, successes and failures. Embracing this journey, with all its imperfections and challenges, is what makes us stronger, wiser, and more compassionate individuals.

So, let’s forgive ourselves for our mistakes, learn from them, and move forward with renewed hope and determination. Every experience, no matter how difficult, is a crucial part of our growth. By accepting this, we open ourselves up to the endless possibilities that life has to offer.

To the player:

In today’s world, it’s incredibly easy to get caught up in striving for perfection, especially on the basketball court. With so much access to social media and other platforms, it's tempting to compare your journey to someone else's, whether it's their career trajectory, their contract, or any other aspect of their lives. While some comparison can be motivational, too much of it can lead to unnecessary pressure and self-doubt.

I've seen athletes become so obsessed with perfecting their game that they start to overthink, losing the natural flow and joy that initially made them successful. The truth is, there is no such thing as being perfect. Great players might achieve moments of perfection, but the best ones understand that they will never reach perfection all the time—and they’re okay with that.

The key lies in being comfortable with the pursuit of perfection while not being attached to actually achieving it. This mindset shift is crucial. It’s about changing the way you view perfection. It’s not that you aren’t striving to be the best at your craft; it’s about recognizing the difference between working hard and developing a toxic relationship with the work.

Instead of fixating on being flawless, focus on continuous improvement and resilience. Understand that mistakes and failures are part of the process and that they are valuable opportunities for learning and growth. This approach not only helps you improve your skills but also keeps you mentally healthy and motivated.

Remember, the most successful players are those who can balance their ambition with self-compassion. They push themselves to be better every day but also forgive themselves for their imperfections. They celebrate their progress, no matter how small, and understand that each step forward, no matter how incremental, is a step toward their ultimate goals.

So, embrace the journey with all its ups and downs. Let go of the need to be perfect and instead, aim to be the best version of yourself. Work hard, stay dedicated, but also be kind to yourself. This balance will not only make you a better player but also a happier and more fulfilled individual.

[021] don’t sweat these humble beginnings

the higher the building goes up. the deeper the foundation must go down.

To the person:

A few days ago I was in the Uber. The driver told me about a hike he went on that was incredibly dangerous. This particular hike had a narrow walkway with unstable footing and foundations. To complete the hike, one must hold onto a chain rope and be very intentional about where to place their feet, as the risk of slipping is high.

He talked about the importance of focusing on the step in front of you. If you think too far ahead, you risk taking a wrong step and falling. Similarly, if you become too distracted in the view from the top before you reach it, you might slow your pace or even talk yourself out of continuing because the journey seems too daunting. The most significant lesson he learned from this experience was to appreciate the effort it took to get there. The focus and attention required to reach the top is something to be proud of.

As I listened to his story, I realized how easy it is to get caught up in wanting to reach our destination and forget to enjoy each step along the way. The difficulties and hardships we face during our journey shape what we ultimately see as our destination. Most of the things we want in life require some form of struggle to achieve. That's just how the universe works: to receive great rewards, we must sacrifice something equally significant.

We need to learn to focus all our attention on the step right in front of us and make it the most purposeful one possible. By the time we reach our goal, we can appreciate the attention and effort we put into each step along the way.

To the player:

It's so normal to visualize the accomplishments we desire: receiving a D1 scholarship, becoming the MVP of the NBA Finals, or making millions of dollars to play the game you love. These achievements are like trophies that come after thousands of hours of dedication, hundreds of nights wondering how you’ll make it, and years of commitment to a goal you hope to achieve.

They say that faith without works is dead, and that couldn’t be more true. The player who focuses on daily actions, continually improving physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally, and doing things that might seem mundane, is the one who will reap the benefits in the end.

As a coach I believe in empowering a player to have the freedom to express themself through the way they play on the court. I support allowing a person to explore the depths of their game and use their imagination to create a reality that others may not see. However, this freedom requires a level of discipline. To express freedom at its highest form, certain benchmarks and levels must be achieved. For example, if you can’t shoot a basic catch-and-shoot three, you’re likely to struggle with shooting off the dribble with a contested hand.

Falling in love with the journey means not getting bored with mastering the fundamentals before moving on to more advanced skills. Just as babies don’t run before they walk, basketball players must master the basics before advancing. Babies instinctively know they must roll over, crawl, stand up, and then take baby steps before walking.

Similarly, players often try to skip steps, driven by the vision of the top, forgetting that real beauty lies in the step they are on and the one just beyond it.

As you pursue greatness in basketball and in life, remember not to overlook the importance of baby steps. They are often the most crucial steps because they form the foundation that supports everything else.

[020] this storm isn’t passing

you are better off learning how to love the rain.

To the person:

Life is a series of ups and downs, calm seas, and turbulent waters. Each of us faces storms, whether they are personal struggles, professional challenges, or even bigger issues. It’s easy to find ourselves wishing for a break, hoping that the storm will pass soon. However, the key to navigating these turbulent times lies not in simply waiting for them to end but in finding peace within them.

The Eye of the Storm

In the midst of a hurricane, there is a place of calm—the eye of the storm. This is a powerful metaphor for life. Finding your own "eye of the storm" means discovering a sense of peace and stability even when everything around you is chaotic. It’s about developing a mindset and strategies that allow you to remain centered and composed, no matter what challenges you face.

Strategies for Finding Your Eye of the Storm

1. Mindfulness and Meditation: One of the most effective ways to find inner peace is through mindfulness and meditation. Taking time each day to focus on your breath and clear your mind can help you stay grounded. It allows you to detach from the whirlwind of thoughts and emotions that storms can bring.

2. Acceptance and Letting Go: Accepting that storms are a natural part of life can be liberating. Instead of resisting or wishing them away, acknowledge their presence. Letting go of the need for control can reduce anxiety and help you focus on what you can influence.

3. Perspective and Gratitude: Shift your perspective to see the storm as an opportunity for growth. Each challenge you face is a lesson that can make you stronger and wiser. Practicing gratitude, even for small things, can help you maintain a positive outlook.

4. Support Systems: Lean on your support systems—friends, family, mentors, or support groups. Sharing your experiences and seeking advice can provide comfort and new perspectives. You don’t have to weather the storm alone.

5. Self-Care: Prioritize self-care to keep your physical, emotional, and mental health in check. Whether it’s exercise, hobbies, or simply taking time to relax, self-care is crucial for maintaining your resilience.

Embrace the Rain

There will always be another storm on the horizon. Instead of constantly hoping for clear skies, learn to dance in the rain. Embrace the challenges and uncertainties of life. By developing resilience and finding peace within yourself, you can navigate any storm with grace and confidence.

Remember, it’s not about avoiding the storm but about finding your calm center and riding it out. Life’s storms are inevitable, but with the right mindset and tools, you can weather them and emerge stronger than ever.

To the player:

To me, the most beautiful thing about the game of basketball is the uncertainty that comes with it. From game to game, day to day, and year to year, you don’t know what challenges you’re going to face or what storms are going to present themselves. It may be that you work your ass off all summer to win a spot on a team only to get there and have politics rear their ugly head. Another year, it may be an injury that you face while having the best statistical season of your career. No matter what the obstacle is, every single day you get a choice: either embrace the storm and become comfortable in the rain, or run from it and complain about how turbulent the conditions are. The constant is that the storm isn’t going anywhere; it’s simply going to change form, and you have to build yourself up to be a person who can handle whatever the game gives you.

Of course, this isn’t an easy skill to learn. If you want to be great, you must work on it daily throughout your career. Develop resilience by putting yourself in challenging situations and using them to enhance your ability to deal with obstacles. Reflect on the hardest thing you’ve had to go through in your life and your career and remember that you’re still here today. The fact of the matter is you’re stronger than you think and more capable than you’re willing to admit right now. Keep going.

[019] SElf doubt is normal

not taking the NECESSARY steps to neutralize it is a choice.

To the person:

You want to learn how to get rid of doubt?

I bet.

First and foremost, it's important to recognize that doubt is perfectly normal.

Every one of us, at some point, faces internal questioning and uncertainty. This feeling is not unique to you; it is a shared human experience. We all question ourselves, and we all grapple with the doubts of others.

Successful individuals, however, have learned to harness doubt and transform it into motivation. They understand that when self-doubt creeps in, they have a choice: they can either succumb to it or use it as fuel to work harder and improve.

By putting in enough effort and repetitions, they gradually chip away at their doubts, replacing them with confidence and skill.

Alternatively, if they choose not to confront their doubts, they risk living in fear and missing out on their potential.

The same applies to external doubt. When others question our abilities or intentions, we have a similar choice. We can either let their skepticism hurt us or use it as a driving force to prove them wrong.

The path we choose can significantly influence our success and self-worth. By rising above the doubt projected upon us, we not only achieve our goals but also demonstrate our resilience and determination.

In conclusion, doubt is an inevitable part of life, but it does not have to be a hindrance. Embrace it, use it as a source of motivation, and let it propel you toward your aspirations.

Remember, the way we handle doubt—whether internal or external—defines our journey and our success.

Stay strong, stay focused, and speak victory.

To the player:

You ever wonder if the player at the highest level has any mental struggle?

What I found most surprising is that these top performers experience doubt just like novices do. Even at the highest levels, competition involves an internal battle for confidence and a sense of belonging that takes place within an athlete's mind. Various factors contribute to this, such as their status within a team, their standing in the organization, and their overall self-confidence.

Many of us believe that those who perform at extremely high levels are immune to self-doubt, but that’s simply not true. In fact, I would argue that the higher the level of performance, the smaller the margin for error becomes, which can create a pressure that most people cannot even imagine.

So, what does this teach us?

1. It highlights the necessity of working on yourself every day to give yourself the best chance to succeed in high-pressure and high-intensity situations.

2. Problems aren’t exclusive to those climbing up the mountain. There can also be bad weather at the top, and you need to be prepared for it. If you don’t bring the proper gear, you will inevitably suffer from the colder climate at the summit.

3. Overcoming self-doubt is a daily task. We need to implement systems to handle it, which can include mental and physical exercises. Improving how you talk to yourself and maintaining consistency in your efforts can directly influence your self-belief on a daily basis.

To become a person who can withstand any storm life throws at you, you shouldn’t wish the wind, rain, and cold away. The truth is, there will always be bad weather at the top of the mountain. But when the sun shines, the view is breathtaking. All you can do is equip yourself with the tools necessary for your journey every single day. Once you have the skills to deal with life’s challenges, the doubt will start to fade away.

[018] What is success?

the biggest win is learning that you get to decide what a win is.

To the person:

Success—what does it truly mean? The world around us often presents a singular definition: career achievements, financial wealth, and social status. While these things can be significant, they don't encompass the entire spectrum of what success can represent.

From a young age, we’re forced to live with societal expectations. We see success portrayed in the media, celebrated in our communities, and often validated by those closest to us. But what if this universal definition of success isn't right for everyone? What if your version of success looks completely different?

Imagine a life where you set your own benchmarks. Success could mean cultivating deep personal relationships, pursuing a passion project, achieving a healthy work-life balance, or simply finding inner peace. When you start to challenge the traditional narrative, you gain the power to define success on your own terms.

Take Sarah, for instance. She was thriving in a high-paying corporate job, but felt a deep sense of unfulfillment. After much introspection, she realized that her true passion lay in teaching and helping others. Sarah left her corporate career to become an educator, and although it came with financial sacrifices, she found a level of happiness and satisfaction she never knew before.

Or consider John, who turned down a promotion that would have meant more money but also longer hours and less time with his family. For John, success meant being present for his children’s milestones and creating lasting memories with them.

These stories exemplify how redefining success can lead to true freedom and fulfillment.

Steps to Redefine Success

1. Reflect on Your Values

Take some time to reflect on what truly matters to you. What are your core values and beliefs? What brings you joy and fulfillment?

2. Set Personal Goals

Once you’ve identified your values, set goals that align with them. These goals should be personal and meaningful to you, not just based on societal standards.

3. Embrace Change

Redefining success may require significant changes in your life. Embrace these changes with an open heart and mind, knowing they are steps towards your authentic self.

4. Celebrate Your Unique Journey

Every step you take in defining success for yourself is a victory. Celebrate these milestones and recognize your growth along the way.

Embrace Your Unique Definition of Success

You can never truly be free until you start defining success for yourself. The journey may be challenging, but the reward is a life of authenticity, joy, and genuine fulfillment.

To the player:

One thing about high-level basketball players that I’ve always admired is that they have their own definition of what success looks like. Throughout my career, I struggled with comparing myself to other people and not being fully content with the results I was getting based on the work I put in. This led to an unhealthy cycle of putting my expectations in other people telling me that I was good enough or in others giving me opportunities to show my skills.

The truth is, when you get to the highest level of basketball, sometimes you don’t get a fair chance to show what you can do. That’s part of the game and part of learning how to fight through adversity on your journey to becoming the type of player you want to be. Just because you don’t get the benefit of the doubt right now doesn’t mean you won’t find yourself in a situation later where you are looked at as the best player and expected to perform at that level.

That’s why it’s so important to define success by the things you can control. Too often, players use metrics they have no control over to measure their success, which sets them up for failure if things don’t go as planned. I understand that there are universal metrics for success or individual accolades, but typically the best way to achieve these is to set actionable goals that you have complete control over.

When you’re able to define success in a way that highlights the dedication you put into your work instead of external accolades, you take your power back and give yourself the best chance to be successful over the long run as your situation changes throughout your career. Of course, it’s fulfilling to have other people recognize the work you’ve put into something, and we all want that. But at the end of the day, if we have to rely on other people to ensure our mental game is where it needs to be to perform consistently, then we are putting ourselves behind the eight ball.

Keep striving for greatness and working tirelessly to make your dreams come true. As you continue on your journey, try to become a little more conscious of how you define what success looks like to you.

[017] just be you, it’s that simple.

Embrace Your Authentic Self. It’s Only one you.

To the person:

In today's world, it can be tempting to seek approval from others at the expense of our own authenticity. We have all fallen victim to this at one time or another in life. 

When you trade authenticity for approval, you are essentially telling yourself that you are not enough as you are.

This mindset can be incredibly damaging. It's important to remember that your worth is inherent, meaning it’s in you, not on you. You don't need to change who you are to be accepted by others; your unique qualities and experiences are what make you special. If they don’t like you for you, it's their loss. Authenticity is about embracing your true self—your values, beliefs, and passions. When you live authentically, you attract people who appreciate you for who you are. Sure, not everyone will agree with you or support you, but that’s part of life. Some people will love you, and some people won’t, and that's perfectly normal. Trying to please everyone is a losing battle. It can lead to stress, anxiety, and mental health issues. Focus on surrounding yourself with people who bring the best out of you, appreciate you, and help you grow.

Remember, authenticity is a journey, not a destination. It requires courage and commitment, but the rewards are immeasurable. By embracing you, you not only improve your own well-being but also inspire others to do the same.

Stay true, stay authentic, and speak victory.

To the player:

5 Lessons on Becoming a Better Basketball Player Through Authenticity

1. Embrace Your Unique Playing Style

Recognize your unique strengths and playing style. Don't try to mimic someone else just to fit in or get approval from coaches and teammates. Your unique abilities are what make you valuable to the team. Embrace them, and focus on honing the skills that set you apart.

2. Play with Confidence in Who You Are

Confidence on the court comes from self-acceptance. Trust in your training, skills, and instincts. When you believe in your capabilities and stay true to your style of play, you'll perform better under pressure and contribute more effectively to your team.

3. Accept Diverse Opinions and Focus on Growth

Not everyone will agree with your style or decisions on the court, and that's okay. Constructive criticism is valuable, but not every opinion defines your worth or ability. Use feedback to grow, but don't let negative comments undermine your confidence or authenticity.

4. Stand for Your Values and Ethics in the Game

Integrity in sports is crucial. Whether it's playing fair, showing respect to opponents, or maintaining a strong work ethic, standing by your values builds character. This not only helps you sleep better at night but also earns you respect from teammates, coaches, and competitors.

5. Foster Genuine Connections with Teammates

Build authentic relationships with your teammates by being genuine and supportive. True camaraderie comes from understanding and respecting each other's unique contributions. This creates a positive team environment where everyone can thrive and perform their best.

By applying these lessons, you can enhance your basketball performance and personal fulfillment. Embrace your authentic self, play with confidence, accept diverse opinions, uphold your values, and build genuine connections to become a better player and teammate.

[016] embrace your future

the past is just a story we tell ourselves

To the person:

Every day, we navigate our lives guided by the stories we tell ourselves. These narratives shape our perceptions, influence our decisions, and define our identities. However, not all stories serve us well. Some are rooted in fear, regret, and doubt—reminders from a past that no longer exists yet still holds a surprising amount of influence over our present.

Fear and the Past

Fear often finds its roots in these stories. We replay moments of failure, rejection, and pain, allowing them to cast long shadows over our current lives. But here’s the truth: the past is gone. It exists only in our memories and the meaning we give to it. The only place fear can exist is in our mind.

Imagine your mind as a computer hard drive. Some files are filled with old documents detailing every misstep and misfortune. These files are large, and keeping  them around can make your computer run slower. But you have the power to decide which files to keep and which to get rid of..

Letting Go

To move forward, we must first let go of the things that no longer serve us. Holding onto these narratives does nothing but chain us to a version of ourselves we are striving to outgrow. By continually revisiting these tales, we reinforce a cycle of self-doubt and hesitation, slowing our growth and potential.

Start by identifying the stories that spark fear and self-limitation. Ask yourself: Is this narrative helping me become the person I aspire to be? If the answer is no, it’s time to let it go. This doesn’t mean ignoring or forgetting the past, but rather, reframing it in a way that empowers rather than hinders. Deep within every loss is a lesson.

Writing a New Story

Embrace the concept of rewriting your story. Picture your life as a blank page, ready to be filled with new experiences, lessons, and triumphs. You are the author of your destiny, and you have the freedom to craft a narrative that reflects your true potential.

Begin by visualizing the person you want to become. What qualities does this future self possess? What goals have they achieved? How do they respond to challenges? Use this vision as your guide and start writing your new story with intention and positivity.

Steps to Change Your Narrative

1. Acknowledge the Old Stories: Identify the specific fears and limiting beliefs rooted in your past experiences.

2. Challenge Their Validity: Question the accuracy and relevance of these stories. Are they based on facts or perceptions? Do they reflect your current reality?

3. Lead with Positivity: Replace negative narratives with positive affirmations. Focus on your strengths, achievements, and the lessons learned from past experiences.

4. Set New Goals: Define clear, achievable goals that align with your vision for the future. Break them down into manageable steps and celebrate your progress.

5. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself during this process. Change takes time, and setbacks are part of the journey. Treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding you would offer a friend.

Embrace Your Future

Remember, you are not your past. Every day is an opportunity to write a new chapter in your life. By letting go of the stories that hold you back, you create space for growth, joy, and fulfillment. Embrace the blank page before you and start crafting a narrative that celebrates your resilience, potential, and endless possibilities.

To the player:

It's easy to take an experience you've had on the court and internalize it as something inevitable. How many times have you missed a shot you wanted to make, turned the ball over in a key moment, or made a costly defensive error with the game on the line? These things happen to the best players in the world. When working with elite athletes, you learn that the best of them have the shortest memories. They don't dwell on mistakes; they move on quickly.

The Consuming Nature of Fear

Fear has the ability to consume a player. Throughout my career, I honestly believe there were times when I let the fear of failure or the fear of letting someone down hold me back from reaching my full potential. Fear, especially in the biggest moments, can cripple you and prevent you from taking the risks you deserve.

The Power of Hard Work

The most significant factor that helped me overcome my fear of failure was hard work. When you put in enough reps to the point where the result is predictable, it takes away a lot of the fear of the unknown. When you know that you’ve trained yourself to a level of mastery at a specific skill, you don’t fear what will happen when you have to perform that skill in front of thousands of people.

Gaining Perspective

Another thing that helped me overcome fear of failing on the court was having a better perspective on what life, in general, was about. Understanding that sport is simply a game, and even though it’s a very important part of life, the essence of life itself is so much greater than any result you can get on the playing field.

The Freedom to Experiment

Living with these ideas in mind, you free yourself up to experiment within the game and try things that you might not normally have tried because you put so much pressure on yourself to succeed. Going into situations with the mindset that you’ve already won—the ability to play the game in general is a win. At the end of the day, what do you really have to lose?

Remember, the game is just one part of life. Embrace it, enjoy it, and don't let fear hold you back. By putting in the work and maintaining the right perspective, you can overcome fear and reach your full potential on and off the court.

[015] lose yourself in the now

it’s simple. yesterday is gone, tomorrow isn’t promised .

To the person:

I remember times when worry would consume my thoughts. I'm sure we've all felt that way at some point. In these moments of worry, you must have faith in your thoughts, words, and actions—the work you've been doing to put yourself in a position to succeed. Learning to ground yourself in the present doesn’t mean ignoring the future or denying the past; it means accepting what happened and embracing what is to come. Being joyful about what you currently have is the gateway to manifesting more. We often try to look around the corner to see what's next, believing we can't be impactful until we reach our next destination. However, the place where we are most impactful is right now.

Being in the present brings a certain level of stillness. There is no worry about the past or anxiety about the future. The more time you can spend in the present, the better and more vivid life will seem. Embracing the present moment allows you to fully engage with your surroundings, appreciate the journey, and make the most of every opportunity. This shift in focus can enhance your overall well-being, improve your performance in various aspects of life, and lead to a more fulfilling and balanced existence. By cultivating a present-focused mindset, you can navigate life's challenges with greater ease and clarity, ultimately achieving a deeper sense of peace and satisfaction.

To the player:

One common reason athletes experience performance lows is their inability to stay grounded in the present moment. Inevitably, things will happen during games, practices, and workouts. Mastering the art of having a short-term memory is what separates the average from the great. Great players can emotionally disconnect from negative events quickly. They don’t view results emotionally but can suspend emotion and focus on the task at hand. This is easier when you find peace in the present moment or, as it’s known in sports, finding flow. Flow is simply allowing yourself to shut off your brain and act on instinct. At its simplest, sports test your instincts, body, and mind. If you want to take your game to the next level, the quickest way is often a mindset shift, not a physical one.

[014] Regret why?

leave no stone unturned. trust me, your sanity depends on it.

To the person:

I don't know how many of you have lost somebody close to you, but undoubtedly, that's probably one of the most challenging obstacles we ever have to face throughout our human existence. Yesterday, one of my friends asked me if I felt like I was healed after the loss of my mother a little over a year ago. She claimed that when I speak about my mother, it sounds like I'm healed from it. My response to her was that although some days are much harder than others, and there are moments when you wish you could talk to or hold that person, the contentment comes from living without regret.

At the end of the day, I think as humans, we all exist in a balanced state, and even our interactions with other people are a constant fight for balance if you are living with the right intentions. In our simplest form, children grow up wanting to repay their parents for giving them the greatest gift, which is life. In a healthy and loving relationship, I believe you feel the urge to repay that gift even more. I'm able to cope with loss from a place of knowing that I left no stone unturned regarding the moments we shared.

It's all about impacting the people you want to impact throughout life and living in a way that you don't regret anything in the end. We all get opportunities throughout the days, weeks, and years to chase greatness in different aspects of life. All of these pursuits look a little different based on who we are and what vehicle we choose to use, but there is one constant: effort. If you give everything you have to something, you'll be able to sleep well with the result, no matter what that result is.

Everything you go after in life is either teaching you how to be a better person or how to find better alignment. Every experience is a learning experience if you choose to look at it that way. As you go through life and all your endeavors, try as hard as you can to give it your all because the last thing you want to do is get to the end of the journey and have to live with the regrets of not trying.

To the player:

You have a limited amount of time to leave your mark on the game. Understanding this fact should motivate you to put in extra work, get extra reps, and play every game as if it could be your last. Honestly, you never know when or how your career will conclude. Many variables come into play when we talk about sports, from injuries to politics. The higher the level at which you play the game, the more external factors influence your interaction with it. There are many things completely out of your control that can shape the trajectory of your career.

The question I have for you is: What do you actually want to get out of the game? And why do you play the game? Finding the answers to these questions and having a firm grasp of your internal reasoning for chasing whatever it is you’re chasing will help you maintain perspective when things don’t go as planned. This perspective will allow you to have gratitude for the opportunity to play and contentment with the journey you took to get wherever you are.

My basketball career got cut short because of an injury. It happened at a time when I felt like I was playing some of the best basketball I’d ever played. For a while, I struggled with accepting the timing of it all. But as I reflect on my career in its entirety, I can’t be mad at the results because I gave everything I had to the game. What I didn’t know at the time was that all those obstacles and hurdles I had to jump over along my journey prepared me for my true calling: coaching, teaching, and inspiring. If I hadn’t faced those struggles, I would have no idea how to connect with others. All of those obstacles made me the person I am today, and your struggles and obstacles will do the same for you.

[013] how you livin’?

BEYOND BUILDING HABITS. DESIGN A LIFESTYLE.

To the person:

If you are anything like me, you are on a never-ending journey to become a better person. That pursuit typically involves building habits of some sort. These habits are usually intended to lead you to more positive outcomes. I think it’s important to practice habit-building and track your progress in performing the task itself. It can help build up momentum towards your goals and strengthen the muscle of just showing up. SHOWING UP IS THE BARE MINIMUM. The highest-level performers in every industry speak at length about showing up and doing the work. So much so that the idea of working becomes more than something they do; it’s who they are. That is why building a lifestyle is more important than building habits. Your lifestyle is who you are, while a habit is just something you do. The person who has a better lifestyle typically wins in the end. Think about the person who strives to lose weight vs. the person who lives an active and organic lifestyle just for the sake of living it.

To the player:

The best players I have ever met are not necessarily the hardest workers or the ones who go to bed at the same time every night. They don't rely solely on specific habits they think might make them better players. Don’t get me wrong—hard work has its place in helping us maximize our talents, and discipline can make us better players as well. But the best players I have ever worked with or played with simply created the lifestyle of a hooper. This includes their confidence, their personality, and their belief system. Your lifestyle is a direct reflection of who you are. The environment you place yourself in will inevitably produce a result. The true test is whether you can create an environment where you have no choice but to become the player you want to be.

TRY THIS:

Start by making a list of who you actually want to be and what the lifestyle of someone living that reality is probably like. Would they work out? Watch film? Talk to themselves? Shoot 500 shots a day? List everything they would do, feel, and believe in. Then mimic that lifestyle as closely as possible. The habits you build as a result will, in turn, feed more into the lifestyle you have created. Leading you to creating the results that you are looking for faster than simple habit building itself.

[012] it’s all up to you.

everyday you get a choice. that in itself is a privilege .

To the person:

Every morning, as the sun rises, we are gifted with an opportunity: the chance to decide the type of person we want to be. It's an idea that, while simple, carries serious implications for our lives.

You see, the beauty of being human lies in our ability to express choice. Unlike any other creature on this planet, we possess the remarkable ability to shape our own destiny, to carve out our own path in the world. Consider for a moment the humble dog. A loyal companion, yes, but bound by instinct and genetics to a predetermined role in life. A dog cannot wake up one morning and decide to be a lawyer, or a painter, or an athlete. But you, my friend, can.

You have within you the power to be anything you desire. Whether you dream of getting 12 degrees in your pursuit as a scholar, or painting the world in hues of creativity, or pushing the limits of physical prowess as an athlete, the choice is yours to make. It is a privilege afforded to us by virtue of our humanity, and one that we should cherish and embrace every chance we get.

To the player:

STOP AND THINK: Why are you waiting for greatness as if greatness is just waiting around for you? If you don't utilize your skills to work, grind, and chase your dreams, you'll never fully unlock your potential.

It's concerning how many athletes I encounter daily who aren't leaving every stone unturned in their quest for improvement.

The reality is, if you're not learning something new or mastering a skill every day, you're already behind.

Ambition is a muscle you have to train.

You might be wondering how to apply this in real life.

1. Understand that maximization isn't just an action—it's a mindset that defines who you are. It's about constantly seeking that competitive edge.

2. Ask questions. Approach everyone around you and inquire about how to improve, how to execute a particular move, or anything else that piques your curiosity. Often, the information you seek is right in front of you; it's your responsibility to seek it out.

3. Reverse-engineer the player you aspire to become. Identify athletes performing at the highest level and emulate their techniques.

Every day presents an opportunity to elevate your game, to evolve. Remember, if you're not putting in the work, someone else is. And when it comes down to that final spot, it's no secret who will claim it.

[011] comfort is a silent killer.

COMFORT IS A SILENCE KILLER. BECOME COMFORTABLE BEInG UNCOMFORTABLE.

To the person:

Comfort zones are cozy, familiar, and tempting to cling to, even when they're holding us back. But here's the truth: growth happens when we step outside of our comfort zones and let go of what's weighing us down. Here are 5 tips that can help us work on getting out of our comfort zones.

1. Embrace change, it’s necessary for growth. Instead of clinging to the familiar, embrace the opportunities that come with letting go.

2. Reflect on your values and what truly matters to you. Are those bad habits or toxic relationships aligning with your values and goals?

3. Give yourself grace, Letting go isn't easy, and it's okay to feel a range of emotions—sadness, fear, even relief. Be gentle with yourself during this process and remember that it's okay to prioritize your own well-being.

4. Instead of dwelling on what you're leaving behind, focus on the growth and opportunities that lie ahead. Visualize the person you want to become and take steps each day to move closer to that vision.

5. Find a partner, you don't have to go through this journey alone. Lean on friends, family, or a trusted mentor for support and guidance as you navigate the process of letting go and moving forward.

Remember, letting go of what no longer serves you is an act of self-love and empowerment. So take a deep breath, summon your courage, and take that leap. You've got this.

To the player:

To become a great basketball player, it's essential to break free from your comfort zone and embrace new challenges. Staying within familiar routines and techniques may offer temporary security, but it ultimately limits your growth and potential. Stepping outside of your comfort zone allows you to push your boundaries, experiment with different playing styles, and develop a diverse skill set that sets you apart on the court.

THINK ABOUT IT:

If you never move the bar to something that is a little bit uncomfortable then you will never be able to see how much growth you are actually capable of.

Maybe, instead of trying to make 5 shots in a row we try to make 10. Maybe, we make 8, but guess what, 8 is more that 5. See how setting your sights a little higher creates an environment that allows you to grow.

By venturing into unfamiliar territory, whether it's mastering a new dribbling technique, perfecting your defense against taller opponents, or expanding your range from deep, you cultivate resilience, adaptability, and confidence in your abilities. Embracing discomfort creates a growth mindset, allowing you to see continuous improvement and unlocking your full potential as a ball player. So, don't be afraid to take risks, challenge yourself, and explore on your journey to the top of the game.

[010] OWN THE FAILURES.

THE POWER YOU SEEK IS IN YOUR ABILITY TO TAKE OWNERSHIP OF YOUR FAILURES.

To the person:

Life has a funny way of throwing us into unfavorable situations. It could be a tough day at work, a strained relationship, or just feeling stuck in a rut. In moments like these, it's easy to feel overwhelmed and helpless, like we're at the mercy of external forces. But what if I told you that you possess the ability to turn things around? Next time you find yourself in such a situation, I urge you to make a conscious decision to be the change that you want to see. It's a simple yet powerful shift in perspective. Instead of focusing on what's wrong or what you can't control, focus on what you can do to improve the situation.

Take ownership of your thoughts and actions.

ASK YOURSELF: What small steps can I take to make things better? Maybe it's having an open and honest conversation with someone, setting boundaries, or simply practicing self-care. Whatever it may be, remember that you have the power to initiate change. Ownership is freedom.

To the player:

Throughout your journey within the game, I’m sure you have endured obstacles such as not playing the amount of minutes you would like, struggling to make a change in your skill level, or losing games. The easy thing to do when you face these types of situations is to point the finger and blame other people for why things are not working out the way you wanted them to. The power and dominion you want to have over your life reside in accepting the failure along with the success and taking responsibility for both.

THINK ABOUT IT:

Athlete A: Played 20 minutes in the game - shot 3-10 from 3 and blamed not getting the ball on time on target for why he shot 30%.

Athlete B: Played the same amount of minutes and shot the same percentage but determined that it was their fault and they needed to work on shooting while receiving bad passes.

Which athlete do you think will have a better game the next game considering all other variables stay the same? Probably the athlete who took ownership. Just something to think about.

[009] which voice?

YOU HAVE TWO VOICES IN YOUR HEAD. CHOOSE WISELY THE ONE YOU LISTEN TO.

To the person:

We all have an inner dialogue that guides our thoughts, emotions, and actions. Think for a moment about the voice you choose to listen to most frequently. Is it one of positivity and encouragement, or does it tend to lean towards criticism and self-doubt? Are you your own biggest cheerleader, or do you find yourself being overly critical of your every move?

It's important to recognize that the voice we choose to listen to has a huge impact on our well-being and success in life. If we constantly feed into negative self-talk, we diminish our confidence and hinder our ability to reach our full potential. On the other hand, when we cultivate a voice of self-compassion, support, and encouragement, we empower ourselves to overcome challenges, pursue our dreams, and thrive in all aspects of life. BE MINDFUL of the nature of your inner voice. You have the power to change the narrative. You can consciously choose to nurture a voice of positivity and self-love, one that cheers you on in times of triumph and offers comfort in times of struggle.

To the player:

As basketball players, we all have an inner coach and an inner critic whispering words of guidance or doubt into our ears. Which one are you choosing to listen to? Take a moment to reflect on the nature of your inner voice. When you miss a shot, make a mistake, or face a tough opponent, what do you say to yourself? Are you quick to criticize and doubt your abilities? Or do you offer yourself words of encouragement.

Without question, this to me is the biggest difference between good prayers and great ones. The great ones have a delusional voice, their level of optimism is unmatched. The good player may be just as talented and skilled as the great one but typically has a sliver of doubt in their minds. That one ounce of hesitation in your belief system can be the difference between being a player who had a good career and being a legend. I urge you to be mindful of the voice within. Whether you're on the court or off, remember that your voice is powerful—it has the ability to shape your reality. So use it wisely, and watch the way your life and game changes.

[008] impact is eternal.

don’t wait until it’s too late to start making a difference.

To the person:

In the grand scheme of life, each of us is allotted a birth date and a death date—a finite span of time to navigate the complexities of existence. It is within this finite window that the essence of what makes us human unfolds. Between these two markers of our journey lies a humble symbol: the dash. This unassuming punctuation mark, resting between our birth and death dates, encapsulates the entirety of our lived experience—the laughter, the tears, the triumphs, and the trials.

It is within this dash that the story of our lives is written, for us that will be a story of growth, discovery, and transformation. The beauty of being human lies not in the amount of years we are granted, but in the depth of our experiences within that finite timeframe. It is within the confines of the dash that we have the opportunity to leave our mark on the world, to shape our legacy, and to fulfill our highest potential. You only get one dash to make an impact. Use it wisely.

To the player:

During our careers, every player is given a finite amount of time to leave their mark on the game. This is our opportunity to shape our legacy, to make a lasting impact, and to fulfill our highest potential. The last thing we would want, is to get to the end of our career and feel like we left some stones unturned. It’s not until the end that we typically realize how precious of an opportunity we had, when it was right in front of us the entire time.

TRY THIS:

As you navigate the challenges and triumphs of your basketball career, remember the profound significance of the limited amount of time you get to play the game. Embrace each game with gratitude and intention, knowing that the impact you make has the power to resonate far beyond the confines of the court. I urge you to seize the opportunity. Play with passion, compete with intensity not just against your opponents but also against your previous self. Be the best version of you that you can be and live with the results of whatever that brings you.

[007] worry is worthless.

FAITH + ALIGNMENT IS THE formula for success.

To the person:

In life, we are often taught the importance of pursuing our desires with unshakable determination. From a young age, we're encouraged to set goals and chase after our dreams relentlessly. Yet, within this pursuit, there lies a subtle distinction that separates those who press forward with worry from those who press forward with confidence.

The real question we need to face is whether we are going to be driven not by confidence but by apprehension? How often do we allow worry to dictate our actions, to rob us of the joy and excitement that should accompany our pursuit of greatness?

Worry is worthless in the face of faith. When we have unwavering faith in ourselves, in the universe, in our creator, worry loses its grip on us. It becomes nothing more than a fleeting shadow, dissipating in the radiant light of our belief. To truly manifest our desires, we must align ourselves—spiritually, mentally, and physically—with our intended outcomes.

To the player:

Every player dreams of reaching new heights, of pushing past their limits, and achieving greatness on the court. However, in the pursuit of these aspirations, there's a vital lesson to be learned—one that goes beyond physical prowess and technical skill.

Worry can be a sneaky adversary of the mind, often clouding our judgment and hindering our progress on the court. It whispers doubts and fears, casting a shadow of uncertainty over our abilities. How many times have we found ourselves on the court, questioning ourselves for no reason at all? How often do we allow worry to dictate our actions, robbing us of the fearlessness that should accompany our play?

TRY THIS.

As you step onto the court, remember, everything you wish for will come to be when you press forward with faith and purpose. Trust in the power of your skills, believe in the beauty of teamwork, and know that the universe conspires in your favor when you align yourself with your intended outcome. There are many things we don’t have control over, our mentality isn’t one of them.

[006] be the light.

in the face of darkness, you create light or you complain about how you can’t see.

To the person:

Life, isn’t easy and we shouldn’t expect it to be. The mark of a person who is built to last, is someone who learns how to look inward to find the strength they need to get through tough times. Besides, what is the alternative going to bring you? More darkness. Be a person who always finds a solution to the problems around them. Be a person who attacks life with an “anything is possible” mindset. In the face of darkness be the one who creates light, not the one who complains about how dark it is.

THINK ABOUT THIS.

We have all watched people complain about things they don’t like, things they can’t change, or things that don’t really matter. What do most of those complainers have in common? They are victims to their circumstance. They see their problems as a personal attack for which they are unable to defend. Taking ownership of the solutions to your problems is what will set us free. We have the power to change our story.

To the player:

Most times, it is our own fault that we are not in the position we want to be in. I was talking to a young ball player about his season, when I asked why he thought he didn’t receive the post season accolades that he wanted, he began to list a few reasons that had nothing to do with things in his control. As I thought about it, I realized that all of the reasons that he named where actually valid, but, they were not conducive to building a level of ownership over your journey?

THINK ABOUT IT.

I’m sure we could all sit around and think about a plethora of different reasons why we haven’t made it big yet. On the contrary, I bet if we direct our energy inward, there are an equal number of things we could have done or could be doing to change our outcomes. In life and in the game, you are the author of your story. Obviously things happen, people try to keep you down, but are you going to be the person who tells the story about how you were held down or the person who tells the story about how they beat the game, beat the odds, and beat doubters too?

[005] switch the lens.

our vision is only as clear as the lens we choose to look through.

To the person:

The lens through which we perceive a situation shapes the very reality we experience. It is an undeniable truth that the way we interpret challenges, setbacks, and adversities profoundly influences the outcomes we get. Far too frequently, in the face of adversity, we confront these obstacles with a negative mindset, unknowingly paving the way for negative results. The alternative, a more empowering approach, lies in the conscious effort to defeat adversity by changing our perspective.

THINK ABOUT IT. Adversity is an inevitable companion on life's journey. Personal struggles, professional challenges, or unexpected turns of fate, all test our resilience. We must resist the initial urge to adopt a negative mindset. Thoughts of defeat can cloud our judgment, creating a self-fulfilling prophecy where negativity brings negative outcomes. The most successful people have the ability to have a delusional level of optimism in the way they view challenges.

To the player:

The best basketball players I’ve been around all have this delusional confidence in themselves. No matter the opponent or result of the last few plays, they are able to maintain a spirit of confidence due to the perspective they take. The results we get are a direct reflection of the

(work we put in) x (our level of belief in ourselves)

and sometimes your belief system can out perform our work.

THINK ABOUT IT.

Player A: Works out consistently but lacks the mindset to perform when it matters.

Player B: Is inconsistent with their work but believe in their ability, delusional.

Player C: Puts in the work on their game and builds themself mentally enough to blindly believe that they are destined for a positive outcome.

By far, Player C has the best chance to be successful.

What is stopping you from being player C? Why not change your mentality? Why not put in the hours? Why not believe blindly that you can do the unthinkable?